Thursday, 27 February 2014

Understanding Psychosynthesis

The development of human potential coupled with a comprehensive approach to self-realization is termed as Psychosynthesis. The aim of this practice is to enable people to discover and utilize their true spiritual nature in everyday life. It increases one's creative potential, improves quality in relationships and the ability to function in the modern world in a harmonious way.  Displaying some facets of psychotherapy, it is a collection of exercises and techniques which are designed to help people move towards what they want to in life and discard what they don’t want or need. A method that involves practicality, it integrates principles derived from personal growth.

Psychosynthesis doesn’t determine how a person should be like. On the contrary, it involves the person looking into themselves on how they should become what they want to be like. This tunes into the realm of self and purpose, thus does not just gratify partial unbalanced desires but being able to be a person that adjusts and fits into any situation on the journey of life.

Psychosynthesis is a method of self-improvement, more to say a kind of therapy that coordinates with the unfolding evolution of nature. It brings wholeness, awareness and a connection to the process of evolution that happens in each individual person. Termed effectively as psychology for the soul, it emphasizes the value of inspiration, intuition and creative insight. While concentrating on an individual’s character and personality it also taps into the realms ascribed to esoteric and mystical doctrines. These areas may be spiritual but it does not impose any kind of belief system or doctrine upon the individual who uses it. In short, it is not a religion but a way of life that allows you to live anyway you want.

To practice Psychosynthesis, you need to understand your own life and yourself as a person so that you can trust on your own unfoldment and growth. This want it honors both the individual and the kind of people associated with that person, so that there is no pride or ego involved. It does not teach anyone to put themselves above anyone else. We can utilize and honor our wishes but not at the expense of others. This prevents any rigid stereotyping or labeling of individuals.

Psychosynthesis helps us recognize that every one of us is constantly growing. This puts value and meaning into our life and gives us the ability to make the right decisions. There is also this familiarization of responsibility to the world and ourselves as a whole. Know yourself is the right term for these words which includes the whole person. It is composed of the spiritual and physical personality of the person, which brings a sense of connection to the divine, the energy within us. This brings about inner healing in all of us because of the right attitude instilled through Psychosynthesis.

To live better lives, function more effectively and become more centered, Psychosynthesis helps us explore these parts in detail. Out body works together to bring about complete healing. So our psychological functions which comprises of our emotions, feelings, sensations, thoughts, imagination, intuition, creativity and every other thing that completes us, can work well and live without conflict. 

Wednesday, 12 February 2014

What is Codependency?

Codependency is a psychological condition or a relationship where one is dependent on the needs of or control by another. That person may often be seen as overly controlling, excessively dutiful, or even too nice- putting up with painful situatuons for way too long.

They can be great people to come to the rescue of others, but at the expense of their own needs. They may be martyrs, and eventually suffer with deep resentments and low self esteem. They may be involved with someone that seems to need them a lot- an alcoholic or addict. They can be characterized by low self-esteem,needing to be needed, obsession, denial and excessive compliance or control patterns. Codependency affects any sort of relationship be it in families, friendships, work, romance and community.

People who are dysfunctional have probably dealt with earlier life abuse or experienced some form of limited parenting.  If codependent symptoms are left untreated, it could get worse as time progresses. However the effects are reversible if treated early. If you would like to know the actual signs and symptoms of codependency, they are listed below:-

  • Low Self-Esteem – When you compare every minor detail about yourself with others and not feel good enough, then you are suffering from low self-esteem. You actually feel unlovable or inadequate but put on a different face in front of others by thinking highly of yourself.  Perfectionism and guilt go along with low self-esteem.
  • People-Pleasing – When you are codependent, you will have a hard time saying no to people, simple because you don’t want to lose their relationship. You may even go out of the way to sacrifice your own needs in order to accommodate someone else’s.
  • Poor Boundaries – Codependents usually get into trouble when it comes to drawing the line. They feel responsible or guilty for other people’s failures, emotions or problems. They are withdrawn and closed up, which makes it difficult for others to get close to them.
  • Reactivity – A consequence of setting poor boundaries is that you react badly to people’s thoughts and feelings in a negative way. When someone says something you disagree with, you will become defensive or agree with them. You tend to absorb their words and characterize it with yourself. If you have proper boundaries, you will easily realize that it just an opinion and not a reflection of your persona.
  • Control – Codependents feel safe and secure when they start controlling others. This is because their mind is in constant chaos and uncertainty. This prevents them from taking risks and sharing their feelings. To bottle up their feelings, they either have an addiction which loosens them up. They need other people to behave in a certain way, so that they feel ok. However this leads to them being bossy which violates and oversteps the person’s personal space.
  • Dysfunctional Communication – If you don’t know what you feel, think or need, it becomes a problem. Codependents have problems with sharing and communicating their opinions, thoughts and feelings with others. They are afraid to be truthful and end up pleasing others just for the sake of it. They will try to manipulate the other person out of distrust and fear on you by becoming dishonest.
  • Obsession – If you are spending a lot of time thinking about other people and their relationships more than about yourself, you are definitely obsessing over them. It keeps you from living your life and staying in denial as you lapse into fantasies about how you would like things to be.
  • Denial – You need to know you have a problem before you can fix it. Codependents think that someone else or some other situation is the cause of all the problems and situations in their life. They either complain or move on from one relationship to the next. They have trouble receiving advice and help from others by pretending to be self-sufficient. They are in denial of their vulnerability and are in desperate need of love and intimacy.
  • Painful Emotions – When you are under stress from being codependent, it will lead to rethinking of painful emotions from the past. There is constant fear of being abandoned, unloved, rejected, being a failure or making mistakes. When this feeling reaches a high point, you will go numb and oblivious to the world around you.

Codependency is the most basic form of addiction. The first step in getting over this condition is to recognize and get guidance and support. These symptoms are ingrained habits which are difficult to change and rectify on your own free will. Come to the realization that any form of addiction leads to attachment and then to control.

Addiction – Attachment – Control (Ego)

Get introduced to alternative healing methods and get in touch with your inner self. The only way out of this dilemma is through a healthy detachment from the object of one's need or addiction and to truly find and nurture one's own inner Self.  Balanced and interdependent healthy realtionships will follow, after one has a stonger sense of Self- love and inner harmony.

Acceptance – Surrender –Detachment-Love